5 Things You're Doing That Are Sabotaging Your Health
Like we talked about last week, our physical health & habits are undeniably connected to our mindset and overall lifestyle.
I've preached constantly (and I'll preach it again) that who you are is who you are.
You're not one way in the gym and one way at work. You're the same everywhere.
So that means, it's highly likely you've got some unhealthy habits that you don't see as directly "health" related that are eating away at other areas of your life.
Here are 5 things you might be doing that have a bigger effect on your physical health than you realize.
1. Being indecisive
Look, nobody ever got in kick-ass shape by "kinda" doing something. You're either in, or you're out. You either know or you don't. You've either decided, or you haven't. If you're one of those people (me) who's constantly indecisive about where to go for dinner, what to wear, what to do in your free time, which book to read, which nail polish to pick (LITERALLY, THE BIGGEST MOMENT OF INDECISION OF MY LIFE) then you're also one of those people who hasn't decided what their goals are or what they're going to do to make them happen.
Being indecisive will actually cause you to die a slow, painful death, because you won't be going anywhere or doing anything. You'll just be sitting there trying to decide.
2. Seeking (too much) approval from others
It's fine to want to be liked and respected by people you care about, but taking it too far can also hinder your physical progress. A fitness journey is never easy, no matter where you start or where you're going. They all require sacrifices, habit changes and metaphorical mountain climbing. Those challenges can get messy and awkward and feel super vulnerable when you're living them right out in front of other people.
Maybe you don't want to order a salad while everyone else is getting burgers because you know the sarcastic comments will just roll in about that. Or maybe you're too nervous to try that new machine at the gym or wear those tight pants to run in because you're scared of what other people will think.
If you're waiting for a green-light, go-ahead, checkmark from the world, give up now. Your journey will require you to be seen, and not just seen seen, but seen sweaty, failing, attempting, falling short, struggling, sacrificing. Not your best look, right?
A worse look? Miserable but comfortable.
3. Letting people off the hook
"I'm so sorry I never responded to your text, I just got busy!"
"No it's okay, don't worry about it."
Been there? I have (on both ends) and here's the thing: if you let others off the hook too easily for their shortcomings, you're definitely doing the same to yourself. You might think you're your biggest critic and there's no way you let yourself off the hook, but I promise you, when the going gets tough and the cravings get strong, you will find a way to let yourself off the hook for that cookie or week off from the gym. Because it's who you are.
Likewise, if you're the person who never texts back or flakes on plans, what might that say about your personal commitments to changes you want to make in your life?
4. Saying "try"
Similar to #1, you're either doing it or you aren't. There's really no such thing as "trying" to drink more water or "trying" to make it to the gym 3 times per week.
Are you drinking more water? Yes or no?
Are you making it to the gym? Yes or no?
Try doesn't drop the pounds or move weights, and if you're someone who "tries" to remember that or "tries" to stay in touch or "tries" to have it done by the end of the week, you're also someone who "tries" to get in shape.
Are you, or aren't you? Try is a safety net for failure. It's a cowardly cop out to the truth: you're either doing it or you're not.
5. Staying comfortable
This is probably the biggest, most influential thing on this list. Staying comfortable means: procrastinating
only doing things you "feel like" doing
putting off important conversations
never trying new things for fear of the "unknown" factor.
And I say this is the biggest thing because there is no doubt in my mind that if you're unwilling to have hard conversations; if you're not ready to do things you don't feel like doing; if you constantly procrastinate your chores or your work responsibilities; if you're hitting snooze & prolonging the inevitable just to stay comfy for 5 more minutes-- then I promise you, you don't have what it takes to get to the place in your health you want to get to.
Your health goals (whether they're bigger, smaller, faster, stronger, lighter, happier, WHATEVER) are going to require you to get uncomfortable. They have to, otherwise, you're going to stay right where you are right now. Some level of discomfort, of "not knowing," of "not feeling like it," or of awkwardness is going to come about if you're seeking change. Wherever that is in your life.
You've got to be ready and willing to go to some uncomfortable places if you want to get to the great places on the other side.
Which of these 5 things are you doing? What other habits do you have that might be impacting your health?