A Fitness Mindset Epiphany You Need To Know About

I recently read an instagram caption that completely changed my fitness mindset.


I preach about body positivity and self-confidence so much, but I think I’ve had things backwards for a while. See, while I truly love being in the gym or otherwise getting a good sweat in, I realized I’ve often been working from a place of negativity and expecting to make a positive change. 

It even sounds wrong. 

I don’t think there’s a single thing wrong with wanting to improve your body to look better or wanting to shed a few pounds to feel confident in your jeans or comfortable in sleeveless shirts again.

The problem is this line of thinking that I only just realized I had: I’m doing _____ because I don’t like the way I look/feel.

As long as you’re dieting/working out/running/training WHATEVER from a place of negativity (i.e. punishment to your body) you’re going to fail. 

Every. Single. Time. 



Like that caption I read stated so perfectly, “You can’t hate your way to positive change.”

f you see the process as torture; if you beat yourself up and think “This is why you’re doing an hour of cardio later!”; if you’re working from a place of unhappiness and self-hatred… you’re going nowhere fast.


So how can we change that? How can we, in various states of dissatisfaction and disapproval of our bodies, approach exercise differently?

Well, here’s what I started telling myself: I’m doing ____ because I respect myself.

Do I love my body?  Not all the time. Do I respect myself and my body? Absolutely.

I’m not going to lie to myself or try and trick myself into believing I'm 100% confident in my physique and current body shape. I don’t believe in pretending self-consciousness doesn’t exist, but I do believe in not giving it the spotlight.

This past week, I’ve been able to say “no” to tempting snacks and treats. I’ve finished 1 more set than usual or stayed 10 more minutes in the gym not because “If you want to like the way you look, this is the price you have to pay,” but because “You are an intelligent, funny, caring person, and that’s a type of person who deserves to be taken care of.”

I’m telling you, it’s a game changer, and it may sound cheesy or hokey or corny— but if you’ve ever struggled with motivation or body shame issues (which I’m fairly certain we all have), then I bet you’re willing to try it. 

What do you think? Let’s start creating positive change from a positive place, shall we?