The Work No One Wants To Do


I think we try to take the “as-simple-as-possible” approach to changing our lives. (Which is only natural. It’s quite counter-intuitive, and therefore difficult, to seek out & create challenge in our lives.)
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However, if what you’re seeking is a deep change to your life, focusing on surface-layer changes isn’t the way to bring those changes to life.

I’ve been there.

I’d tell myself this time I was going to “stick to it.”

I’d reorganize the pantry, pin new recipes, write a brand new workout schedule to “motivate” myself, and even buy some new workout gear because this time it was “for real.”
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And then 3 weeks later I’d be right back where I started.

Sound familiar?


Why does this happen?

Why is this scenario of events familiar to us all?

Because rather than changing:

➖the way we talk to/about ourselves;
➖the way we view exercise;
➖the thoughts/beliefs we have about food;
➖who we surround ourselves with;
➖what we listen to;
➖what we read;
➖what our social media feeds look like;
➖who we talk to most often/what we talk about—
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we’ll take the quick-way around & just try to patch up the surface.

We’ll buy the food and go on the walk.
We’ll skip dessert and reluctantly choose salad over mac ‘n cheese.
We’ll do these “surface-layer” things because they’re easy.
They’re accessible.
And quite frankly, they’re kind of fun in the beginning.

Changing your mind, your inner dialogue, your environment…
that $h!t ain’t easy.
And it ain’t fun.
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But if we don’t take the time to change those DEEP layers upon which the surface rests, we’re essentially building a castle on silt. It’s going to crash and crumble and we’re going to have to continually rebuild and start over, over and over and over again.
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This is not to say that making dietary + movement changes isn’t a MAJOR step forward.
But it is to say that if that’s ALL you’re changing...
don’t expect to see long-term results.

Do the deep work.

It’s messy and it’s time-consuming, but so is starting over and failing repeatedly, right?