FREE Coaching Exercise!

Check out this post about boundaries and enjoy this free exercise below that I use with clients to help outline, accept + redraw boundaries in order to make real progress.

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OUTLINING BOUNDARIES: HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO?

option 1: outline —> accept

option 2: outline —> redraw

categories to consider: health + fitness, work, social, romantic, financial

Goals / Things I want that I don’t currently have:

Roadblocks / Things I do/don’t do now that might be making it harder to get those things:

—> Non-negotiables (things I’m not willing to give up)

—> limitations that these non-negotiables produce (what is NOT going to happen as a result of keeping these things around?

—> Negotiables (things I might be willing to give up/cut back on)

—> things that become accessible as a result (what is going to happen in the absence of these things?)

Boundaries I accept:

Boundaries I’m redrawing:


MY EXAMPLE
(to give you extra guidance on filling out your own)

Goals / Things I want that I don’t currently have:

  • faster 5k

  • more financial freedom

  • community of female friends

Roadblocks / Things I do/don’t do now that might be making it harder to get those things:

  • wear myself out by biking and running on the same day sometimes

  • stay in/not go out during the week

  • not advertise my services/feel worried about “annoying” people with my products/offers

—> Non-negotiables (things I’m not willing to give up)

  • biking with Michael after work when we’re both off at the same time

  • date nights/”me time” nights

—> limitations that these non-negotiables produce (what is NOT going to happen as a result of keeping these things around?

  • I won’t get faster as soon as I’d like

  • I’ll forego opportunities to meet new friends

—> Negotiables (things I might be willing to give up/cut back on)

  • fear of talking about my work

—> things that become accessible as a result (what is going to happen in the absence of these things?)

  • potential new clients, more revenue, boosted confidence in what I offer

Boundaries I accept: quality time with myself/my partner

Boundaries I’m redrawing: fear/anxiety around sharing my work


Was this helpful? Let me know in a response to this email, or share your own boundary-outlining work with me for some feedback/help!