A Game For You
In 2017 I took an aptitude assessment from the Johnson O’Connor Research Foundation.
You can learn about what it is & how it works here, but it’s basically 2 days of “tests” designed to help you discover your natural abilities, strengths and weaknesses.
One of the aptitudes I tested strongly in was ideation, which is essentially the ability to come up with ideas.
It’s both a blessing and a curse, and it extends well beyond the creative realm in which you may be thinking of it.
For example, when a driver cuts us off in traffic, I can offer up approximately 37 legitimate reasons on the spot for why he did so. This perturbs Michael greatly, who always assures me that no, none of those are possible, he’s just a jerk okay!?
When moving in to new houses and apartments, I see at least 5 different furniture arrangements/room, something that both excites me and paralyzes me at the same time.
Coming up with ideas is, apparently, an aptitude one is naturally skilled with (or not.)
(I was completely unaware of this until the Johnson O’Connor test.)
I think it is perhaps this aptitude for ideation that allows me to reframe and rewrite many experiences I have that could easily be seen as negative.
It helps me see one thing 5 different ways, (something I truly thought everyone was doing until I realized they weren’t.)
It not only helps me excuse idiot drivers, it helps me reframe failures as learning experiences,
challenges as opportunities for gratitude,
discomfort as moments of growth.
It’s kind of like a game to me.
How many ways can I rewrite this situation?
How can I possibly spin this awful thing in a better light?
What is another way to look at this experience?
Consider this your invitation to play the game, too.
When you find yourself
lost— try to come up with as many ways as possible to reframe the situation otherwise.
How can you turn anger into an opportunity for compassion?
Challenge yourself to try and see obstacles as boosters.
Reframe being lost as being on an adventure.
It’s so very hard, but then again, that’s what makes games so fun, right?