How To Stop Making Excuses

The short answer is simply: don’t. 

Just don’t make them. Stop. Don’t argue with it— “easier said than done.” Just don’t make them.

Of course, you know I won’t stop at the short answer, so here’s the long(er) one:

Quit signing up for things your heart isn’t in.


I make excuses for having that piece of chocolate after dinner when I previously told myself I’d be more mindful of treats. 

I make excuses for texting and driving. “I’m only going 20 mph. I won’t send another one after this.”

I bet you make similar excuses, and probably different ones, too. We all do. And we all need to stop. Excuses are arguments with our intentions and our actions, and when there is consistent discord between the two, well, what shall our minds make of that after 10, 50, 100 times? 

Furthermore, what shall others make of that?

Quit signing up for things your heart isn't in. 

In other words, quit setting intentions that you’re not willing to act on when the time comes. Quit giving your head and your heart opportunities to argue, and start aligning the desires of the two. It requires brutal honesty with yourself, but excuses don’t feel good, sound good, or do good, so let’s stop making them. 

You’re either in it or you’re not. And there’s nothing wrong with being not in it. There is something wrong with trying to go halfsies, though.