"What do they think of me?"
We spend an excessive amount of time worrying about what other people think of us.
“I’ve never been here before… everyone else can probably tell.”
“I don’t really know what I’m talking about… they probably think I’m an idiot.”
“I’ve never used something like this before… I hope no one sees me stumble through this.”
“I’m new to this… I probably look like a bumbling newborn learning to walk.”
“Shoot I forgot something… but I can’t go back now, what will they think of me?!”
We’ve all been in some situation like this, and we’ve all had that “awkwaaarrrrd…” moment where we’re just certain everyone’s secretly laughing at us.
I think the truth is, though, worrying about what other people think of us actually means we’re worried about what we think of us.
When we’re new to a place;
when we have to talk about things we’re not exactly “fluent” in;
when it’s our first time using something;
when we make silly mistakes in front of other people;
we feel insecure & self-conscious and it’s scary to be seen that way.
We don’t like it!
We want to be seen as competent! intelligent! confident! In all situations! Because that feels good… right?
It does. It feels good to our fragile little egos, which are actually the issue here.
Other people are not the issue.
You are the issue.
What YOU think of you
is what makes you worry about what other people think of you.